Berlin Sex Club: My Kitkat Experience

28th March 2021

I remember being at my Couchsurfing host Laura in Milan in preparation for my arrival to Berlin, about five years ago. She lived between the two cities, spent a lot of her weekends in Berlin, and kept yapping on about how free-spirited Berlin was. Specifically, she mentioned several times how wonderful it was that people were just strutting totally nude in Berlin sex clubs such as Berghain (an abandoned power plant turned into the most famous techno club) and Kitkat Berlin, getting it on in public in Central Berlin as casually as you’d sip a beer on a rocking chair on the porch of the Marina back where I’m from.

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I remember thinking she was either completely off her rocker, or something decidedly weird or wrong was going down in Berlin.

I remember thinking that.

That was cute.

Fast-forward five years, and find me half-naked in a Berlin sex club, ha.

Oh, Berlin.

Berlin, Berlin, Berlin. A great place to come…

Where to start. Maybe with the fact that I am excessively prude, despite what the people in my social circle would say of me right now. I really am! But there is this very healthy approach to nudity in Germany that’s been captivating me since day one. And Berlin has loosened me up, in all the best possible ways.

If you’re just passing through Germany’s capital and are curious about the club scene, you’ve come to the right place. Berlin is regarded as the party capital of Europe and there is even a club commission and people like Lutz Leichsenring to literally fight for our right to paaaaarty and make sure the city’s nightlife is alive and well and the best place for all old and young people to enjoy together. So come to club nights with an open mind, there is so much to explore in Berlin outside of the mainstream clubs.

I haven’t visited that many Berlin clubs, but outside of Kitkat, there is, of course, one of the most famous clubs — Berghain and its wonderful Panorama bar, some more obscure sex parties like House of Red Doors (follow Bad Bruises on Instagram) and Kater Blau which is a lot tamer. The city’s nightlife comes alive very late in Berlin but it is so much fun I promise — so have an afternoon nap, drink a redbull, or, ya know, do what it is you gotta do in order to stay up late for the Berlin nightclub.

My friends, please come to the dark side. I hope it’s Friday night? Saturday night will also do. You’ve come to the right place. Grab your fetish wear (some recommendations below) and why not maybe some body paint, and get ready for a good time. Many clubs in Berlin are regarded as cultural institutions, so you’re not just (potentially) having casual sex, you are doing something a little bit cultural! No matter your sexual orientation, the club culture in Berlin is a safe space and open environment for all to be free and enjoy hedonism. Kitkat is not a gay sex club per se, but really anything goes here. Every second Friday is Revolver, where Kit Kat becomes a gay club for a night, an especially good time for my gay men friends ou there. Do check out their Electric Monday or Carneball Bizarre parties too!

So what’s the deal with KitKat Berlin and the sex club Berlin scene?

It all started as a bit of a joke when I was trying to convince myself that going to a spa completely nude with a group of friends was no biggie. In the German capital, it’s considered unhygienic to use the spa facilities with a swimsuit on, so everyone’s in the buff. So I guess it’s the spa culture that pulled me into this investigation of public nudity, and along came the important role of the FKK movement (Freikörperkultur, or “free body culture”, in English). I can’t quite pinpoint when I got completed sucked into the Berlin sex culture and decided I wanted to know more and free my own body. But I did and, as it’d been the case with several aspects of my life since becoming single, I also wanted to test my own boundaries, do the sex club Berlin thing, and so this Kitkat Berlin review was born.

Was I naive before or has Berlin turned me into a pervert? There’s a bit of truth in both, I suppose.

First time? Here for the KitKat Club dress code? Read on!

In the grander scheme of Kit Kat Berlin or any sex clubs Berlin stories though, my experience was pretty tame. I went with a girlfriend, danced the night away, watched all the beautiful people strut their stuff and more, and got home by 7am, which is pretty early for a night out in Berlin if you ask me. What’s been more interesting was to observe the changes that have operated in me between being shell-shocked that such a thing would happen when I was back in Milan, and seeing it as another with a pal a few years later. Sure, there were people having sex around me, but to me, at that moment in time, it was just beautiful. My KitKat Berlin experience was beautiful. And I was beautiful. And everyone was beautiful.

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The kit Kat berlin dress code

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Wondering about the Kitkat Berlin dress code? In my book, the less you wear the better when doing the sex club Berlin thing! It is a Berlin sex party after all! I visited Kitkat Club wearing these latex hotpants and a see-through bralette and felt overdress. So I got one of these little numbers for my next Kit Kat club outfit! If you have time and you’re in Berlin, you can also visit Maskworld, Superschlüpfer, and Swartzer Reiter for a Kitkat Berlin outfit and all sorts of kinky things. And that goes both for men and women. Kit Kat Club dress code is chill, but just don’t wear too much – especially if you’re a single man 😉

What about kitkatclub berlin outfits for men?

Ah yes, the male kit kat club what to wear conundrum. I receive a lot of messages from men who tell me they have no idea what to pick for a Kit Kat Club Sex outfit or asking me how to dress for KitKat berlin if you’re a dude. In doubt, keep it simple, and keep it black. You’ve probably noticed by now that Berlin’s official dress code is ALL BLACK EVERYTHING, so obviously the same goes for the Kitkat dress code. A simple pair of black shorts and a bare chest will do. I’m hoping you’re accompanied by a female, otherwise, chances of getting in are greatly reduced. It’s just… like that, I’m sorry boys.

Just don’t stress out, wear as little as you’re comfortable with (but wear shoes, for goodness sake, ew!) and you’ll be fine. People are undressing at the cloakroom, so you can get a sense of what goes once you’re there too, and you can remove more or less once you’re there. Always a good idea to carry condoms and set up a meeting point with your friends — there are a lot of people!

What’s your Kit Kat Berlin dress code? I’m curious!

What’s going to happen once you’re in there?

Nothing you don’t want to happen! Kitkat Club Berlin has got to be the most consensual place I have ever visited. But before all that, if you’re anything like me, I was curious about the logistics of getting “undressed” once you arrive there and have passed the KitKat club berlin door policy test.

After being asked by the doorman if we were wearing anything a bit sexier under our woolly jumpers and both of us simultaneously flashing him, we followed everyone and disrobed, leaving everything in the free cloakroom. KitKat dresscode unlocked, we are in, weeee! Kitkatclub is super chill! The people are beautiful, there are loads of chilling, dancing, and cuddling areas, and some darker areas where naughtier stuff is happening, but really, it’s for you to decide what you do with your evening. With such a place comes a set of rules and I felt respected and comfortable to a point I never did in any other random bar.

There are several sizes of dance floor to pick from at KitKat with different styles of music (some great and not-so-great music in my opinion!) and some rooms dedicated to the sexy stuff (the dark room).

There’s nothing more you should specifically know about Kit Kat Club Berlin. I think it’s something that should be experienced if that’s what you’re into, not because that’s “the thing to do.” But if you love to feel free and liberated if you’re comfortable with nudity and with people screwing around you, if you’re kinky as I am and want to know more about Kitkat Berlin sex, if the idea of feeling like you’re in a Stanley Kubrick movie or in that scene from Super Troopers rocks your world as it did for me, then by all means go and visit a Berlin sex club and tick the damn Kit Kat Club Berlin Germany checkmark of your damn German list, kiddo. It may well be one of your best clubbing experiences. Go get it.

Have you been to Berlin sex clubs? How was your sex clubs Berlin experience?

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52 thoughts on “Berlin Sex Club: My Kitkat Experience

  1. Eric Gamble

    Whoa! Darcee & I were just there in Berlin and somehow we missed this entire world! We definitely explored their party world and it was good. Being from New Orleans nothing really shocked us but we are getting older so we definitely enjoyed the experience overall and felt that it was awesome. But we totally missed hearing or learning about their Sex Club worlds even though now I remember something about it on one of those HBO afterdark documentaries.
    Do places like the kit kat target singles or did you see couples there?

    1. Amélie Post author

      It targets everyone! It’s a very inclusive and respectful place and the crowd tends to be quite mature, so you wouldn’t feel old or anything 🙂

  2. Tamara Elliott

    That sounds totally insane lol. I definitely had a much tamer trip when I was in Berlin- just seeing historic monuments!

  3. Siddhartha Joshi

    Even tough you cal yourself prude, I think it was very prude of you to actually go naked all the way! I also visited a naked spa in Germany last year and the experience was extremely liberating…and I would do it again when I visit the country next time. Maybe even a sex club too 🙂

  4. Fiona Maclean

    LOL I think I might have missed the boat on this – I’d have gone along in my 20s or 30s – but I’m now a little too old! It sounds like it was a fascinating and enlightening experience though so I am a little sad that I’ve probably left it too late

    1. Amélie Post author

      Not at all! There are people of all ages in there! The clubbing crowd is quite mature in Berlin. I’m 36 and I definitely felt like some of the youngest there 🙂

  5. Cristina Pettersen Carpio

    It sounds like there is a bit of everything in Berlin and this is some of the not so known. For me Berlin is about history, culture and environment. I definitely would go back to Berlin to explore more in depth the city.

  6. Jose Harvey

    I couldn’t agree more with your frank assessment of sex clubs and what happens. Anything goes and there is something liberating about that. My thing is I always feel a bit hesitant…being a gay man…when I go to some sex clubs. I typically find that my hesitancy is quite unwarranted. Love that you write about these things! KitKat sounds fun!

      1. Guy

        Yeah me & a friend, both heterosexual went to check it out on a saturday. They refused us entry at the door, probably because we are straight males. So we went to friedrichshain instead to party. Much better.

  7. Nisha

    Quite interesting. I have read about clothing optional beaches and visited FKK in Vienna along the Danube (fully clothed) but never heard of nude clubs. Would I go there?

  8. Alli

    It definitely sounds like quite the experience! I’m glad you mentioned the reasons why you should experience something like this over going because you feel like it’s “the thing to do.” When I was in Bangkok, I fell into the trap of the latter. I went to see a patpong show, not because I wanted to or thought it would be something I’d enjoy, but because I thought it “was the thing to do.” I was uncomfortable during my visit and couldn’t wait to leave! And I am someone who wouldn’t consider myself a prude or anything but it just wasn’t for me! So because of that experience, I can’t say I would be keen on this experience in Berlin but maybe it would be, who knows! I’m sure Bangkok and Berlin are quite different in their own way, right? 🙂

    1. Amélie Post author

      Oh yeah, I nearly fell into that too and then decided not to go in the end. Glad I didn’t and sorry you did xx

    2. Ken

      I lived in BKK for >10 years and live in Berlin now (again) where I was born. The cities are very different (but mostly behind the scenes. Actually, BKK is not really liberated while Berlin is. But the whole discussion would lead to far. Patpong show is nothing to write home about. Neither spectacular on any dimension nor really anything BKK stands for. Just a way to make money.

  9. Lois Alter Mark

    Wow, this is a world I’ve never experienced and I feel like a voyeur just reading about it! My trips to Berlin have only involved history and culture and food! I’m glad you had a good time and especially glad to hear about everyone respecting the idea of consent.

  10. Rugga

    Berlin i am coming. There are many blogs which tells what wear to reduce you chance of rejection but all those for women. Can someone tell what are menswear for these clubs? Wear nothing is one answer but what if I want to wear something?

    1. Amélie Post author

      That is such a good point, and I’m sorry I haven’t addressed that. To be honest, I don’t have the answer, I’m really not a fan of male fetishwear, and I’m not too sure what else there is. The only thing that comes to mind is a horrible reference to 50 shades of grey and his ripped up jeans with a bare chest… For me that still works though. I will have a good search around and update my article! Thanks!

      1. Rugga

        Thanks Amélie, I will be traveling from Switzerland to Berlin just to explore this new world. So any suggestion will be great. If not KitKat then any alternate?

        1. Ken

          Insomnia would be the best alternative if more interested about the liberated part; Sisyphos, if more interested about the music….

    2. Zoe

      its easy. patent, leather, rubber, steampunk, guthic, a kilt, come as a drag queen, or with a harness in a police, firemen, flight captain, captain dress, be totally coloured, wear feathers, neon uv-light fashion come as a priest, be extraordinary but please don’t come with a free body in a black jeans.

  11. Stéphane

    Hi Amélie — congratulations on this great blog! I am planning to visit by the end of November and have the same questions as Ruga re: mail attire and alternatives to KitKat (not sure if you heard about this –…)

  12. Jane

    Hi Amelie,

    Last Saturday I was in Berlin and visited KitKat for the first time. What a liberating experience ! I adored it. You can be YOU or whoever you want to be. First time in my life when going out to not be harrassed or to feel uncomfortable in any way… There is a lot of love and open mindedness in Berlin. Before I was always enjoying musea, food, friends there and now a totally new side of this amazing city has shown itself.
    I’ll be back for more <3

    1. York and Tamar

      Beautiful review. Thanks Amelie. My wife and I travel the world always looking for new doors to open to broaden our horizons. Heading to KitKat tonight following your review. Vielen dank for your perspectives.

  13. Matthieu

    Hi Amelie,

    Thanks a lot for this article ! Definitely useful information for someone who would like to try the experience
    (like me :D), but did not know how things are inside – there is not so much detailed information on the web.
    What I really like in your articles is your sensitive writing, you share your true feelings and this is what gives me
    the impression of reading a friend’s diary (I read everything about Berlin on your blog since I will soon visit the city),
    with a sense of humor most of my friends don’t have 😛 Well done.

    So, I will be in Berlin for some days in January and I would like to go to the Kitkat club ; do you think it is ok to go
    on a Wednesday ?

    I already went to a sex club in France (I’m French), a so-called “wet” one with sauna/hammam/jacuzzi, to be honest
    I didn’t like it because (a lot of) men were like wolves around (a too few) women, it was impossible to talk to any
    girl without being followed and watched by a dozen of men, and this was both weird and very frustrating.
    I discovered I like being nude and feeling liberated with strangers a few years ago, and I am very open to everything
    good life can bring, but I am a kind of romantic guy I need nice conversations and getting to know each other
    and a relaxed mood…
    As far as I read the Kitkat is very different from my past experience and people seem to be there for fun, with
    an open mind : this is exactly what I am into ! Is it right ?

    I have a stupid question to end : if I am naked, how do I pay for the drinks ? Maybe it is charged when going out ?

    Thanks for your time reading my long message, I hope you will answer my questions.
    I wish you a very very happy new year (a bit in advance !), enjoy the holidays season 🙂
    Cheers <3

    1. Amélie Post author

      Hi Matthieu, what a sweet message, thanks for reading my blog. Anything you would have liked reading about that you didn’t find here? I rarely get comments like yours, so I’m keen to know what my readers are looking for 🙂

      You are correct about Kitkat, it’s super laid back and people are very friendly and approachable. The only thing that didn’t do it so much for me is the music though. Techno! Loud techno everywhere. You have to be OK with that. There’s a room downstairs that plays 80s and 90s pop though, which is my favourite 🙂

      As far as “where to put your money” (that made me smile), I didn’t see many fully naked people (mostly women, and they were carrying a little handbag). I don’t think paying at the end is an option, so best something around your neck or something to keep your money in.

      Hope this helps! Have so much fun! And look out for the Pornceptual party is you’re here around that time too! 🙂


      1. Matthieu

        Hi Amelie,

        Thanks for your reply. I look forward to my visit to the KitKat club… 15 days left !

        Honestly your articles about Berlin covered my interests for a few days trip. Maybe you can tell about nice, uncommon shopping places? Like vintage clothes or craftmanship or old books markets (I am sure it exists somewhere in Berlin !). I like the old books outdoor market in Lyon in France so I would be happy to visit something equivalent in Berlin.

        I am vegan and I really liked your articles about vegan food in Berlin. Can’t wait to go to Stella Nera 🙂

        It seems you never went to France??? How is it possible? 😉 Do you mean speak French? With a name like yours I would bet.

        Thanks again, take care happy new year and who knows? Maybe see you at the KitKat! *Wink*

        1. Amélie Post author

          Salut Mathieu, désolé pour le long return, super idée pour le vintage shopping! J’espere que tu t’es bien amusé a Kitkat? Au plaisir, Amélie

          1. Matthieu

            Salut Amélie je viens d’écrire 1 message qui n’apparaît pas je retente… Je suis allé au KitKat hier!!! C’était super!!! Un bémol concernant la musique : répétitive et pas trop à mon goût… Mais en tout cas les gens sont adorables et l’ambiance est top. Pour les coquineries le mercredi n’est pas le meilleur jour je pense il y a avait bcp de couples pas trop libérés (des jeunes). Du coup si certains profitaient à fond les autres sont restés bien sages. Tonuide” était super pour moi pour franchir la porte, en plus je parle pas allemand 😉 Si je ne suis pas crevé ce soir j’ai envie de tenter le Berghain ou bien l’insomnia… Un peu loin de mon hôtel… On y va ensemble ? :-p

  14. Addie

    Hi Amelie, I’m a solo female traveler who’s about to venture into Berlin. What are your thoughts about going to Kikatclub alone?

  15. Peta

    Just been there last weekend for the second time with my friends. Really place to go. I haven´t ever felt that free and respected. If everything goes well, we would love to be coming back again next year 🙂

  16. Abel

    I have a doubt. Do you really have to go there already in leather, kinky outfit (which wouldn’t probably be very appropriate, specially with this weather 🙂 ) or you go “normal” and then get changed in?

    If the latter, how do they know then whether you fit to the dress code?

    Thanks, cool article!!

    1. Amélie Post author

      Best to come already dressed in what you’ll wear that evening to pass the door policy. With a jacket on top, for example 🙂

    1. Amélie Post author

      Hey Yot, I don’t think there’s much of a difference, for me it was always more or less the same every time I went. Have fun!

    2. Georgina

      OHMYGOD! You have just summed up my KitKat experience perfectly- when telling all my friends back home in England about it they’re very skeptical and somewhat judgemental- they just don’t understand what a completely liberating atmosphere it is! I first went to Berlin for the first time in January with a group of friends, went to KitKat (and was in awe the whole time) and met a guy, went back to his and long story short… was back there with him a month later! I have never felt safer, more free- spirited and completely liberated and content- I love it!!!!

  17. Jenny

    Hey Amélie, this is a great review. Do you know if they provide condoms or if people bring their own to these parties? Thank you!

    1. Amélie Post author

      Hey Jenny, good question! My gut feeling thinks yes, but I don’t know for a fact, so probably best to bring your own. That said, I do believe all clubs are still closed for the rest of the year in Berlin due to the Corona situation :/


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