There’s an oft-repeated myth that solo travel is the death of a relationship. Tell the average person that you’re going away without your significant other, and they’ll look at you agape, wondering how to ask what this means for your coupled-up status.
What a lot of people don’t realize is that you can be together without actually being together. Yes, you might have a sense of wanderlust that will never quite go away, but being a frequent traveller while also maintaining a committed relationship can work, so long as you’re willing to put in the effort.
Here are our three golden rules for managing to have the best of both worlds.
Make your plans together
Imagine it: your own modern-day fairytale. Sitting at your desk one day, you decided to download a dating app like Badoo, and before you knew it, your very own knight in shining armour had found his way into your inbox, drawn by your shared love of avocados on toast and your smoking-hot profile picture. Now it’s time to go travelling, and everyone around you is wondering how it will work. The trick is, very simply, to remember that you’re not single. Rather than buying a last-minute, spur-of-the-moment ticket to Thailand, take the time to plan in advance, so you have the chance to talk it through with your partner. This is the best way to avoid any clashes and to make sure you’re taking their needs into account as well as your own. After all, compromise and communication are the keys to a happy and healthy relationship.
Talk through your rules and boundaries before you leave
One of the big issues people have when their significant other goes travelling is a fear about how they’ll act when they’re not around. While a healthy dose of trust should exist in a relationship, it can still be good to talk through what you and your partner think is acceptable before you fly away and leave them for a month or more. Ask their views on whether they’re happy with you having guests over, for example, or whether they’d feel more comfortable with you keeping slightly more distance between you and anyone you might meet. While this can seem a little awkward and overzealous at first, it’s always better to communicate any misgivings before there are a thousand miles between you.
Keep in touch while you’re away
Once you’re away, you still don’t get to act like the carefree singleton you once were. Although it’s fine to take some time to yourself, don’t forget that your partner would probably enjoy hearing from you at some point during your trip. If you can, make plans to Skype or FaceTime regularly, so that they can learn all about your adventures and tell you what’s going on in their own lives too. One of the best parts of being in a relationship is having someone to share it all with, and this is no different when there are a few thousand miles between you. Remind that special someone that even though you’re not together, they still matter to you and that you’re only a phone call away if they need you.
Communicate well, be respectful, and remember that compromise is key, and there should be little issue with you going travelling and maintaining a long-term relationship too!